He was after my ‘purse’

Dear Guru,

I am a 19-year-old girl doing F.Sc. I am deeply in love with a guy ‘R’. However, a few weeks ago he broke up with me without any reason and after that he did not call or text me. We were in a relationship for almost two years and I thought he would marry me. During our courtship, I provided him with all the necessary things which he demanded- at my expense. I was sincere with him, but he just used me as his ATM machine. Despite all of my devotion, he has left me. I am very frustrated and depressed and still miss him, but he doesn’t care. Why do people play with other’s emotions just for the sake of money? How should I get rid of my depression?

Depressed Guria

Dear Depressed Guria,

You must thank your stars that you were not married to that swindler. Opportunists like him are always in search of simple but loaded girls like you. “R” made you believe that he loved you although he just wanted to have fun at your expense. Since you were sincere with him you did not mind giving financial favours to him. It’s not your fault actually, as you were in love. Now that he has ditched you, it’s about time you wake up from your slumber. Girl, it’s a wicked world out there and you must not trust anyone blindly. If he had married you, he would have harassed you for money all your life. Heartless and selfish people like R have no regard for others’ emotions. So, don’t waste your precious time thinking about that loser. Try to divert your mind by spending quality time with your friends and family. And, next time, before falling in love make sure that the guy actually likes you and is not after your purse. Stay happy. Good luck!  

They have fixed my marriage

Hello Guru,

I am 21 years old and have been in a relationship with a boy for two years. Guru, I love him and he also loves me. My problem is that my parents have fixed my marriage and I am going to get married to someone else in a few months’ time. Guru, I can’t forget my boyfriend. Please tell me what to do.

Alone Girl

Dear Alone Girl,

You should have said no to this marriage in the initial stage. Now that you are engaged to someone else and are getting married, it’s in the best of your interest to marry quietly. Your boyfriend seems like a spineless guy who has no guts to take a stand for you. I am sure you don’t want to jeopardise your family’s reputation. Be a good daughter and think about your parents, too. They must have selected someone decent for you. You are only 21 and I am sure you will adjust well with your new surroundings. Leave that little crush of yours behind you and be well prepared for the good days to follow. Good luck!  

I need more time

Salaam Guru,

I have a very bad habit which I want to overcome. I keep secrets regarding my studies from my parents. Actually, my college is very far from our house (about 35 km), so almost half of my day is spent in the college. It takes me approximately one hour to reach college and one hour to return home. Due to this, I have to wake up early in the morning. I reach home at about 3:00 pm despite the fact the college gets off at 1:55 pm. Then I have to go to my tuition academy by 5:30 pm. This routine has changed my behaviour towards studies. I get tired and cannot concentrate on my studies. I do not have any other choice, because there is no other good college nearby where I can get admission. My exams are starting in about three months from now and my preparation is not good. I am very worried.

M. A

Dear M. A,

Your case is not that complicated. All you need to do is to be a bit organised and you can manage everything easily. You must pay attention to all the lectures while attending the classes. There is no point attending the classes half-heartedly. You know when you understand your subjects then it becomes easier for you to make your own notes and then to memorise them. Don’t depend too much on tuitions. If you want to donate more time to your studies then skip your tuition academy. And if you must go to the academy then try to finish your homework there only. If you take keen interest in your classes and tuitions then there is no need to study extra hours. And there is no point hiding your results from your parents. They are your well wishers. Discuss your problems with them. I am sure they will guide you. Good luck!